Tips to Keep the Holidays Stress Free


Editor’s Note: this article first appeared on the Washington State Department of Corrections’ intranet.

The holidays are in full swing. That means extra guests, menu planning, events and managing budgets. Here are some tips on how to manage stress during the festivities.

Tips for Dealing With Holiday Stress 

  • Make Your Well Being a Priority If you don’t take care of yourself no one else will. And if you wish to care for others remember, just like on an airplane, be sure to secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others with theirs.                                   
  • Identify Your Stressors We all have particular family members or events that press our buttons, it is important that you know what they are. Identifying the problem is the first step to solving one.                                                                                   
  • Plan Proactively Now that you’ve identified your stressors, how can you handle those situations differently? How can you change your attitude toward those people and events to make things tolerable and even meaningful to you?                                   
  • Get Adequate Rest Put down the phone and tablet 30 minutes before you go to bed. Create a schedule that allows for the sleep you need and stick to it. The Walking Dead isn’t just a TV show.                                                                                                            
  • Maintain Healthy Eating Habits Don’t eat your feelings. Fuel your body, live your life and reflect on your feelings. Practice portion control and eat and drink in moderation. Experiment with mindful eating, using the senses in each bite and slowly savoring the flavors and moment.                                                                                
  • Maintain Healthy Exercise Habits Was there ever a better time to begin practicing some healthy stress management? Exercise can help you manage a stressful situation, give you a sense of accomplishment, and give you a pleasant endorphin rush! Remember that exercise comes in many forms, going to the gym, running, walking, actively playing with your pets or kids, dancing, climbing walls, video workouts of all sorts…Anything that gets your blood pumping.                                         
  • Practice Gratitude The holidays are a great time to reflect on the blessings in your lives. Try thinking about a time in the last month when you had a genuine moment of connection with another person, an animal or in nature. Reflect on that experience. What in this experience are you grateful for?                                                   
  • Connect Meaningfully with Others Use the holidays as an opportunity to intentionally spend time with people you care about. The holidays also present several opportunities to volunteer in your community both formally and informally.                                                                                                                                      
  • Have a Sense of Humor It won’t all be perfect, but at least we can laugh about it! Laughter can help you manage the stress and put that stress into the perspective it deserves.  


The Department of Enterprise Services offers an  Employee Assistance Program for state workers at: (877) 313-4455

You can also get help for yourself or a loved one by calling the National Suicide Prevention hotline: (800) 273-8255



Ask the Employee Assistance Program: Holiday Parties

The Department of Enterprise Services’ Employee Assistance Program publishes a monthly Q&A column in its Frontline newsletter for supervisors. The following is an excerpt from the December Issue. You can read the full newsletter and subscribe to it here.

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The holiday season seems like a good opportunity to host a party for appreciation and teambuilding, but I don’t want to assume that all employees celebrate Christmas. Do you have advice on how I can plan an inclusive holiday celebration?


You’re right to assume that not everyone celebrates Christmas. In fact, according to the Pew Research Center, 10% of the U.S. population does not, and less than half celebrate it as a religious holiday. In Washington State, 4 out of every 10 people identify as something other than Christian. During the winter months, multiple religions and cultures observe important holidays. It’s not enough to simply rename a Christmas party as a “holiday” party, without recognizing religious diversity and supporting inclusion in the workplace. Do you know which holidays the employees in your workgroup celebrate, and how? This season, consider getting to know what’s important to your team members. Don’t risk placing them in a difficult situation where they feel obligated to attend an event or recognize a holiday that compromises their beliefs or leads them to feel not seen or valued.

Instead, ask employees about their cultural and religious preferences and practices, and show respect and support by learning more about and acknowledging their holidays. Employees will likely appreciate the thoughtfulness of you sharing a greeting for the holiday they observe—“Ramadan Mubarak” to a Muslim coworker during this sacred month, “Yom Tov” to a Jewish colleague observing Yom Kippur, and yes, “Merry Christmas” to the Christians in your workgroup during the last weeks of December and early January. Note that the dates of many religious observances change from year to year: a quick internet search will allow you to put reminders on your calendar for dates that are important to your coworkers, or in Outlook, simply go to File>Options>Calendar and click add holidays.

If your end goal is employee celebration, appreciation, and teambuilding, here are some other actions you can take around the holiday season: 1) Provide opportunities for employees to learn about various cultures and holiday celebrations, or to share about their own cultures, through displays or at events. 2) At celebrations, make sure foods, decorations, and activities are not associated with only one particular religion (the colors of Hanukkah are blue and white, and for Kwanzaa, black, red, and green). 3) Instead of a holiday party, have an end-of-year celebration of accomplishments and contributions. 4) When planning an event or party, be mindful not to schedule it on a day when someone might be fasting or observing a holy day. 5) Make sure to accommodate schedules for religious holidays – it’s the law.

Remember, respecting diversity doesn’t mean ignoring religious celebrations. Employee engagement increases when employees feel safe and encouraged to bring their whole selves to work and feel valued for who they are, not just what they do.